From the heart of Corrie and the Everyday Goddesses.

One day it happened. I felt this shift as if the divine had rearranged my heart and my mind. Maybe it was moved from being slightly on the left, to slightly on the right, who knows! Before my logical people may have the need to remind me that’s not physically possible, let’s insert a chuckle 🤭 right here.

I had suddenly felt the shift in the second response that moves me into action. Shifting from responding from guilt, over to honouring that my mind, body, and soul has to agree to what I am about to say or do. I am no longer trying to make everyone happy, or trying to do what would make others feel comfortable. A shift from the impossible task of pleasing, into being at peace within my own mind, body, and soul.

The world is finicky. We all are sometimes, and somewhat finicky. It was a beautiful day when I stopped chasing the impossible task. That day I realized within my heart that what was possible was to stop over-caring about everything and instead step into relearning what it would mean to care. What a Game changer! This is self-realization, and one of the big WHY’s in the More Than Existing™ Lightworker Certification Program. It’s also blended into the messages of The Everyday Goddess Oracle Cards©.

When you start to realize the reasons why you are pleasing the quirks, demands, insecurities, and fears of yourself and others, you start to realize what’s really needed is possibly being neglected. The day I stopped “dancing with the shadows” as I have coined it, was the day I felt the chains of old patterns, beliefs, and habits changing and breaking. A freedom within myself and my true confidence. An awakening of my spiritual confidence and courage to be true to my presence in my own peace story. This would require me to not be influenced by the finicky behaviour patterns of the human behaviour and instead stay rooted and grounded within my peace. Your authenticity is not created from guilt or the programming of society, but from within your own healthy super ego. Here are some tips to help support you along your own journey.

3 steps to shift from pleasing, over to creating a state of being at peace.

1.    Be Authentic: Trying to please others often leads to compromising your own values, beliefs, and wants. Weakening your own integrity and losing the core essence of your deepest truths. When you find yourself prioritizing the opinions and expectations of others over your own authentic self, you lose a sense of self-identity and become disconnected from the things in life that inspire you the most.

2.    Emotional Well-being: The constantly and consistent desire to seek validation and approval from others can be emotionally draining and stressful. Your self-worth is not created from pleasing others. When you exist from the comforts of the repeat patterns and stories of the mind, you may experience anxious feelings, self-doubt, and always seeking validation from others. It is important to prioritize your own emotional well-being. Shift your focus to cultivating self-acceptance and self-love instead. Your self matters. Your peace matters. When you evolve spiritually and emotionally, you stop looking back and you start to realize what others are doing and saying may be pleasing their own unmet needs. Ask yourself, “Why do I feel a desire to respond from guilt or fear?”

3.    Healthy Boundaries: Trust the feeling of exhaustion within your body! The desire to please everyone will often lead to overextending yourself and neglecting your own boundaries. It can become as if you are in a wheel that has no stopping point. A never-ending cycle of putting others first and saying yes to things you don't want to do. This often results in feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. Establishing healthy boundaries, and not defensive walls from more of the shadow, shady, stories of the mind, is essential for maintaining balance, respecting our own needs, and nurturing healthy relationships.

Often society and the world of judgement and criticism is finicky, and you will never please it so stop trying to Be and start becoming all that is possible within your light and your truth.

Much love, Corrie

Founder, author, and creator of More Than Existing™ & The Everyday Goddess Oracle Cards©.